2 things

2 things I don't like. One major, one minor.

Number One: People who get pregnant(or get someone pregnant, for the sake of this entry it will be considered the same thing) and get married only because of that. Nevermind that I think marriage is a big ol' patriarchal joke (and the jokes on YOU!) Actually, even simply moving in together because one party is pregnant is pretty fucking stupid. If you were going to anyway, then hey. But to think, hmm. Im really not that serious about this person, we've only been dating a month, but damn, Im pregnant now, let's be together! I know that its probably done in the interest of the child but you know what? Kids fucking KNOW things. Oh yeah they do. They know when mom and dad don't really like each other. They know when dad spends all day playing a stupid video game and mom has no one to talk to. And it HURTS them. They know when mom and dad fight at night, after they are in bed. They aren't asleep, oh no they aren't. They are standing with their ear pressed against the door wondering what mommy and daddy are fighting about this time. Be responsible. Pay your child support. Have joint custody. Date other people, live your life. The example you set for the child by being happy will be SO much better than the "perfect little family" bullshit could ever be.

Number Two: People who take all this online journal, message board, chat room stuff so SERIOUSLY that it's their LIFE. People who's validation in life is how many people read what they write. I mean, sure, it's fun to write and read these journals, or chat in a chat room. I've even met some people from online in real life. Sure, I've gotten addicted to people's journals. Its interesting. Its like being able to read a book as it is written, chapter by chapter. And yes, it is cool to know that my journal is read by others also. But for the most part they are more than just READERS to me, because I've chatted with them, emailed them, etc. However, with rare exception, this journal is written FOR ME. So that I can go back and read later. If that's not what your journal is for, then that's fine. But don't be surprised when everyone is in your business, etc. When you write to and for an audience, you have to expect that not everyone is going to be applauding. When you link here and there and up and down, and this person pissed this person off, and that person pissed this person off, and on and on, then don't be surprised when you have a bunch of people pissed off at YOU. It's called crossfire. It's called networking. It's called GET OVER IT. Have you ever seen one of those chart type things that show how if you sleep with John and John slept with Mary and Sue and Sally and Maxine. And Mary Slept with... and Sue slept with... and Sally slept with... And at the bottom there are HUNDREDS of people. HUNDREDS, all connected to John somehow. That's kinda what getting into all the linking fights, etc is like. You pissed off John and at the bottom of the pile, you have HUNDREDS of people who don't like you.

That is all.

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